How I found Calm, Confidence & Letting Go — and how you can, too.
I still remember those nights lying in bed, heart pounding, mind racing through every mistake I’d made, every obligation I felt I should be handling, and every fear about what the future might hold. Anxiety felt like an unwelcome shadow I couldn’t shake, confidence seemed like a distant stranger, and the past… well, it refused to let me go. That was years ago, but meditation quietly became my lifeline. Over time, it helped me calm the storm of anxiety, slowly build confidence, and release the version of myself trapped in regret and worry.
I don’t have fancy credentials. No “teacher certification,” no official “coach” title. What I do have is passion, curiosity, and my own life as proof. I started from scratch. If you can sit still, breathe, and be patient — that’s more than enough. If you want to learn more about my story, you can read more about at About Meditate4calm.
I remember what it was like starting from scratch—the confusion, the doubts, and the questions. That’s why I want to share what has helped me, what works best for beginners, and also what the science says about the power of meditation. So if you’re completely new and don’t know where to begin, don’t worry—I’ve got you. And even if you’ve practiced before, this post can serve as a refreshing guide and might even spark some new ideas for your practice. So let’s dive in and explore!
Real Science & Case Studies (So You Know It’s Not Just Self Help)

It’s not just me saying this — studies show real, measurable changes in people’s lives thanks to meditation.
- The QUANTUM Study at UC San Diego followed nearly 1,000 people during a 7-day intensive meditation workshop, tracking their sleep, heart rate variability, and stress markers. Results showed not just momentary calm, but shifts in physiology and well-being that persisted. You can read more about it on Labfront.
- A guided meditation workshop study looked at participants over four days and then again six months later. Researchers measured both psychological markers (like anxiety, PTSD, and pain) and physiological ones. After the workshop, people reported less anxiety, less pain, and improved mood—many of which lasted months later. The full study is available on PubMed Central.
- Dr. Joe Dispenza’s collaboration with UCSD researchers uses the QUANTUM protocol to explore how meditation affects biology—tracking sleep, gut microbiome changes, immune response, and more. Early findings are promising, especially for resilience and stress reduction. You can explore more details on Dr Joe Dispenza’s webite.
These studies tell us meditation isn’t vague mumbo-jumbo. It changes brain waves, stress hormones, immune responses — things you can measure. Which is encouraging, right? Because your personal experience (anxiety easing, more confidence, less stuck in the past) probably has roots in real changes under the hood.
Common Meditation Techniques for Beginners (And What Might Resonate With You)
There are many types of meditation, but these five are the most commonly used and beginner-friendly. Each offers unique benefits, and exploring them can help you find what resonates best:
- Breathing Meditation – Focuses on the breath as an anchor, helping calm the mind and reduce stress. A popular example is 4-7-8 breathing: inhale for 4 seconds, hold for 7, exhale for 8.
- Mindfulness Meditation – Involves observing thoughts, feelings, and bodily sensations without judgment. This can include body scans, mindful breathing, or bringing attention to daily activities.
- Focus Meditation – Concentrates on a single object, sound, or image (like a candle flame or a flower) to improve concentration and clarity.
- Movement or Walking Meditation – Combines physical movement with mindfulness, paying attention to each step, the breath, and surroundings. Ideal for those who find sitting still challenging.
- Loving-Kindness Meditation – Cultivates compassion and kindness for oneself and others, often through repeating phrases like “May I be safe, may I be peaceful, may I be happy.”
There are many other meditation techniques beyond these five, including mantra repetition, spiritual meditation, progressive muscle relaxation, and guided visualizations. These top five, however, are widely practiced and offer a strong foundation for beginners.
Quick Techniques You Can Try Today

No need to wait. Here are small practices you can use immediately.
- 5-Minute Body Scan + Deep Breathing
Lie or sit comfortably. From toes → head, notice tension. Breathe deeply, exhale fully, release tight spots one by one.
- Walking Meditation
Take 5–10 minutes. Walk slowly, feel each foot on the ground, notice breath, senses (sound, sky, wind), gently bring attention back when mind wanders.
- Shower Meditation
As water falls, feel temperature, smell of soap, sound. Let your thoughts wash away one by one.
- Mindful Eating
Eat something small — a raisin, a piece of fruit. Notice texture, taste, smell, how it feels in your mouth.
- Chore Meditation
Washing dishes, folding clothes? Instead of doing it as autopilot, focus fully: water, smell, warmth, movement.
How I Built a Sustainable Meditation Practice (And you can to)
You might be wondering how to actually start meditating. With so many techniques and approaches out there, it can feel overwhelming or confusing.
My advice? Keep it simple. When I first began, I didn’t overcomplicate things—I focused on making meditation fit naturally into my daily life. Over time, I discovered a few simple approaches that helped me stay consistent. Here are some practices that worked well for me, and I believe they can help you too:
- I set a regular time. For me, mornings worked best because they helped me start the day grounded. I treated meditation like brushing my teeth—something small I did daily that added up over time. Even five minutes at the same time each day trained my mind and body to expect that pause.
- I started small. I used to think meditation meant long sessions sitting perfectly still, but I quickly realized that mindset only stressed me out. So I gave myself permission to begin with just two to five minutes. Some days I did more, some days less. And when I missed a day? I didn’t beat myself up. I simply picked it back up the next time. That kindness to myself made all the difference.
- I used tools to help me stay on track. At first, guided meditations by Dr. Joe Dispenza were a lifesaver. I also leaned on apps like Headspace and Calm, YouTube meditation videos, or even a simple chime timer to keep my focus without constantly checking the clock. Having that structure gave me the confidence to keep practicing until meditation began to feel natural on its own.
- I created a quiet spot. I didn’t have a fancy cushion or a meditation room—just a corner of my bedroom and sometimes even my car on lunch breaks. What mattered was making it distraction-free: silencing my phone, telling others I needed a few minutes, or popping on headphones when the world around me was noisy.
- I learned to be patient and kind with myself. Some days I felt calm and centered; other days my mind raced nonstop. At first, I thought that meant I was “bad” at meditating. But eventually I realized both experiences were valuable. The practice wasn’t about perfection—it was about showing up. The more I encouraged myself with patience and compassion, the more I noticed the shifts building quietly over time.
The Bottom Line

Meditation doesn’t require elaborate rituals, expensive equipment, or long hours of practice—short, consistent sessions can create profound shifts in your life over time. Even just a few minutes each day helps train your mind to pause, notice, and respond rather than react automatically. There isn’t a single “best” type of meditation; the key is experimenting to find what resonates with you—whether it’s focusing on your breath, practicing loving-kindness, doing a body scan, or moving mindfully.
Your ideal practice depends on your energy, your goals, and the rhythm that fits naturally into your day. And you don’t need formal titles, certifications, or a teacher to benefit. The real power comes from showing up for yourself, observing the subtle changes in your mind and body, and consistently creating space for calm and awareness. Over time, even small daily practices accumulate into meaningful transformation, helping you feel more centered, confident, and connected to the present moment.
If you’re ready, try choosing one of the techniques above, commit to doing it for a week, maybe just 5 minutes daily, and notice—really notice—how you feel before, during, after. You might surprise yourself.
So that’s a bit about my meditation journey and what science says works. Now I want to hear from you! Which type of meditation do you think you’ll try first? Anything you’re struggling with? Share in the comments or send me a message—I’d love to hear your story.
Peace & calm,
Deeana at Meditate4Calm